If the year 2020 taught us anything, it has taught us how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Only when you’re uncomfortable does change happen. Within all of the pain and suffering that has emerged in 2020, seek one thing that you can be grateful for.
In the words of Buddhist Monk, Thich Naht Hanh, “When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment, he needs help.” This suffering usually stem from past trauma that hasn’t been acknowledged or resolved. If this past hurt is not addressed, then hurting oneself and those around us will be the order of the day.
In Relationships, What You Resist Persist! Whether you’re in a toxic relationship, or going through a bad breakup, your actions will determine your outcome. If you choose to hold onto all the bad that happened, constantly replaying the negative events in your mind, then you will remain stuck in bitterness and confusion. If you choose to see the bad breakup as a hard life lesson and embrace it with love, then you can recover much quicker and attract goodness your way. What You Resist Persist!
The universe is always ready to co-create the abundance you desire in your life. However, you have to be ready to receive it. Giving gratitude and thanksgiving for the smallest and most insignificant things, on a daily basis, not only create the opportunity for abundance, it also prepares you to receive abundance.
When you’re down and weary, and you can’t see the light of day. Remember it’s always darkest before the dawn. Have FAITH that there will be a brighter day!!!
It’s beautiful to give to others, but giving from a depleted mind, body and soul is exhausting. When you give from a half-full cup, or a full-cup for that matter, you have to constantly replenish your cup in order to be an affective giver. The problem is that we become so busy giving to others, that we forget to take care of Self. As parents we’re nurturing our children, as teachers we’re educating our students, as adult children we’re caring for aging parents, and so on. We keep telling ourselves that one day “I’ll take time for myself” but time has a strange way of passing by pretty quickly. So in the meantime, take time to replenish your cup, and once it’s full continue to nourish yourself so that your cup starts to overflow. The overflow is what you give to others!
Many of us have been conditioned to believe that the thoughts in our head represent who we are as a person. Basically, what I think is who I am. So consider this, many of our thoughts and beliefs come from outside of us. For example, family myths, beliefs, folklore and practices that have been handed down for many generations that has nothing to do with us. Granted family traditions are important and should be honored, but they should not overshadow our purpose for being here, and nor should they take away our ability to create something new from nothing. Our social class, race, physical appearance, political affiliation, religion and so much more are some of the things we identify with but it’s not who we are. When we identify with these thoughts in our mind, we see others as different from us. When we see someone as different, then we lose the ability to relate to them, which brings forth the Ego. Ego is the “I” or “me” that sees things outside itself as “others”. In order for the Ego to survive it must feel superior to anything outside itself. So if the Ego is superior, then the Other must be inferior. Hence forth comes the complaining, resentment, name-calling, and gossiping directed at the Other. The Ego needs tension in order to remain relevant.