My dad told me something a long time ago that I continue to live by today. He said “when approached by the devil, hurry up and agree with him so that he can get out of your way”. When confronted with negative people, agree with them quickly so that the conversation ends quickly. Many of us (myself included) debate with negativity somehow thinking we can change or make a difference, not realizing in that moment, the amount of mental, physical and spiritual energy being depleted from us. It’s only after the conversation has ended that we feel drained. To agree does not mean you’re compromising yourself, it means you’re preserving yourself for something greater.
Sorry I disagree with this. If you agree with the negative person they will keep coming back because they think they have an ally. Also you are feeding into their foolishness. Tell them the truth state it simply or tell them you disagree and walk away. You don’t have to debate or argue, its your choice.
I’m doing my best to keep the devil away why would I agree to anything he says.
I see your point. What works best for me is the path of least resistance. I choose to conserve my words and energy for things that I find enjoyment in. By allowing a negative person to leave my world as quickly as they came in, leaves me with more time to focus on what matters. I do this by simply nodding but never allowing the negative energy to penetrate my space. The phrase I’ve used before is that “I hear you talking but I’m not listening”.
Thank you for your comment.
I have found myself debating with negativity, to no end. I’ve also found myself in the middle of debating with negativity trying to get a negative person to compromise by agreeing to disagree, also to no end. As I’ve evolved, I’ve discovered when it’s pointless, make the choice to excuse myself from the negativity, nothing more said nothing solved but negativity resolved and I can sigh….. Agreeing with negativity is certainly another perspective, one I hadn’t given thought to, initially sounds like a betrayal of self…..mmmmm let me give it some consideration.
Glad to read your new post:-)
Thanks for your comment. To agree with the negativity simply means to remove resistance from the conversation thereby remaining at peace within yourself. For example, when someone close to you, like a spouse or parent, insistance on pulling you into their negative space [many times seeking validation that they’re right] you can stand your grounds and debate; you can walk away with nothing resolved and more than likely they will bring it up again at a later time; or I choose to simply nod “in agreement” investing no mental, spiritual, emotional or physical energy. I simply let go. Nothing penetrates my soul unless I allow it to come in.